However, a few ideas have stayed with me while reading the articles...
in no special order, but starting from the top
1. Shop, Select, Smile(Violet Blue: The Golden Guide to Strap-On Shopping)
Are you coupled? Shopping for strap-ons together is an experience many couples find to be a sort of intellectual foreplay. Together, you assess your options and the imaginations run wild. Would she look better in a black leather harness or a red vinyl sparkly number with shiny silver buckles? Considering the myriad function options on harnesses can be pretty hot, too -- do you want one that leaves her "open" for genital access, or one that you know will rub her clit when she's thrusting?
Observation: Cindy should feel comfortable, and she should think it looks good on her. Shiny red, go for it. Whatever she wants.
2. How Your Strap-On Should Fit
If you're shopping online you won't get a sense of how your strap-on is going to fit you, nor will you be able to ask questions about function and comfort -- and no one will tell you about the fact that strap-ons are actually worn lower than you think. When you try on a harness for the first time, it feels a little weird -- until you understand that it's designed to hold the dildo at precisely the same spot as a penis sits on a man's pubic bone. When you first slip into it, you'll likely think that it's too low, like a pair of lo-rise jeans, rather than a standard set of Levi's. However, that's exactly how it's supposed to fit, and once you tighten down the straps, you'll get a sense of the pubic snugness required to make a stable base for your new dildo, and also how your pubic bone will provide the foundations for your thrusting.
Observation: We will shop together where adults work in the store, and can answer questions. Best also to try both types on to see what Cindy likes best. It should and must be comfortable to wear.
3. Hooray for Dildos
While it's important to get the right harness, it's equally important to get the right dildo. If you're just testing the waters on this whole pegging thing, you'll want to start out with an inexpensive, small model -- that way you don’t wind up with a toy that's too big for a nervous playmate, nor will you be out serious cash if you both decide that pegging isn’t for you.
Observation: think seriously about size and shape before purchase. If we were doing anal sex with Cindy receiving, some comparison of size may be in order to begin.
Thank you Coxksexuel and Violet Blue for walking newbies through the thinking involved prior to purchasing.
Thank you Coxksexuel and Violet Blue for walking newbies through the thinking involved prior to purchasing.
We cannot and SHOULD NOT be embarrassed or shy while purchasing.
